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A question

If you say something and the other person stiffens as though upset, but makes a light remark in response or no response, what do you do? If it depends, what does it depend on?

Since someone inevitably asks, no, you were not the person making the remark nor stiffening for that matter, I promise. :) I'm just curious to see what folks will say.


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Jul. 7th, 2008 09:21 pm (UTC)
I try to deflect and distract if it's something I really meant, or explain if the reaction means they obviously misunderstood what I was saying or my opinion about what I was saying. Sometimes I'm a little bit sarcastic, and I'll say something I *really* don't mean just as a demonstration of how idiotic I think it is, and if someone doesn't understand I'm being sarcastic and thinks I'm being serious ... well, that's easy to fix.

If the problem is that they know I'm being sarcastic and take offense because they do think what I'm annoyed about is good/fine/admirable/whatever ... that's more difficult! That's when I try and gloss over it, move on to another subject, make myself sound silly, otherwise distract. Etc. :P

Well, assuming it's a friend. If it's someone I don't like, I just let them be offended. Heh.
Jul. 7th, 2008 11:14 pm (UTC)
These are the kinds of situations that I do really poorly in, so I don't have advice except to say that I may ask them if I said something wrong, or maybe did they misunderstand me.

As far as dependence, it would usually depend on how well I know the person. If I don't know them that well then usually the anxiety sets it, I ignore it, then I replay it in my head repeatedly for days trying to figure out what I said wrong.

I know that's no help, but it's all I got.
Jul. 8th, 2008 12:20 am (UTC)
I usually just up the Cj-ness-- jokes, smiles, change of subject-- usually works for me, but...well...I was an actor for a long time, and we are known for being crazy, so we are expected to be kind of peculiar.
Jul. 9th, 2008 01:22 am (UTC)
I asked if I have offended that person, if so I apologize.
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