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Little T now says sentences about twice a day.  He started one a day about the time of my colon issues so I wasn't the best blogger mom to post it two weeks later. And this week it went up to twice.  When he started speaking in proto-sentences in October, he used no articles and it was once a week.  Longest so far is "I can't reach that strawberry."  Mostly he still says one word.  Maybe two.  Mostly nouns and a modifier to the noun.   Like he just walked up while I was blogging and said "Mama picture."  However he now says words almost every time he interacts with me.  I'm not sure if this laconic way of talking is a developmental problem or just him.  

What I do know is wrong is that we still don't have conversations.  I don't mean discourses on Kant or even strawberries.  I'd settle for Koko the gorilla type conversations in which we exchange information.  Me: I like grapes. Little T: I like oranges.  He says something and I respond and he says something different.  With two exceptions, he just repeats himself when you say something to him.  He does tell one knock-knock joke, but it's always the same.  He also plays a game in which he asks me to pick up him and I pick him then he asks me to put him down.  Problem is my wrists can't take this kind of game.

Half the time he answers questions with a responsive answer.  The other half he makes no reply at all and I know he heard me.  Repeating the question makes no difference nor does the complexity of the question seem to matter.  "What happened?" never receives a response.

He asks questions mostly "What happened?" and I respond.  But he says nothing in response to this information except sometimes he repeats "What happened?" when it seems he doesn't understand what I said.

Whatever his problem, it's the opposite of autism as I understand it.  In fact he is one of the most social and empathetic people I know.  In fact in my chiropractor's office, he walked over to a boy (a stranger) who was crying and put his hand on his and said "It's okay."

I just feel he uses language as a social interaction tool -- a way to express his emotions or things he wants or to comment on others.  But not as an expressive tool to tell me what's in his head.  Most worrying for me as a parent is anything could happen to him and he would not tell me.

One annoying male speech therapist said "Oh you mean how women complain about men."  "No, the opposite."  He express verbally and nonverbally exactly how he's feeling at any given moment.   He says "I'm hungry/scared/thirsty" and even sometimes) just "scared."  I'm told this is pretty advanced stuff for his age and gender.  He even occasionally says "I love you." But a "real boy" (at least in this therapist's eyes) would tell me "Dog push me." not just "scared" or facts about his current obsession -- trucks, trains and Thomas.  I know he knows a lot about Thomas.  He watches the videos any chance he gets.  But I have no idea if he prefers Thomas over Lady except by observing his behavior.  I hope that make sense.

I hope in recording all this.  He will just prove me wrong.  I told this male therapist that he wasn't saying prepositions or articles (he wasn't at the time)  Then two days later he starts.


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Apr. 25th, 2007 09:09 pm (UTC)
speech therapy
Regardless of the experts opinions, he sounds like a little gem to me.
Apr. 27th, 2007 07:28 pm (UTC)
Re: speech therapy
He totally is! Thanks for seeing that! :)
Apr. 27th, 2007 07:29 pm (UTC)
Re: speech therapy
I expect that far more people see it than we realise.
Apr. 25th, 2007 11:41 pm (UTC)
I'm not sure where I read this, but there's a condition that's the opposite of autism. Very affectionate and loving and social. I wish I knew. But it doesn't matter, he probably doesn't have it. ;.) He's probably just a late bloomer with language.
Apr. 27th, 2007 07:40 pm (UTC)
Well one such condition is Down Syndrome. However cognitively he appears smarter than average. I know he has some sensory processing issues. I'm waiting to see if they go away or not.
Apr. 26th, 2007 06:08 am (UTC)
I'm curious to know whether his hearing has been tested. That's not based on anything specific that you said, but mostly I'm thinking of Michelle's observation that her family thought she was having development and/or behavior problems (mostly not listening/responding/ignoring things) for quite a while until they realized she was nearly deaf. She remembers being able to hear her dad's lower voice but often could not hear her mother.

Anyhow... good luck and we'll think good thoughts.
Apr. 27th, 2007 07:47 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the good thoughts. You've mentioned about Michelle's hearing. He actually seems quite sensitive to most sounds and will say "too loud" if things are loud. His hearing was tested twice as an infant. He failed the first time (not unusual for a baby in the NICU) and passed the second time.

It's true that sometimes he doesn't appear to hear me calling his name, and I know it's not the standard "mother deaf" because a child who acts that way will involuntarily slightly turn their head and then ignore you.

He may have problems processing sounds. I have the same problem like if too many unfamiliar sounds are happening, I can't filter out what someone is saying unless they are right next to me. I do have a scarred eardrum so that's part of the problem, but I also can't locate the source of a sound sometimes.
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